So, Having emerged from a period of "being tested" myself Im interested in what counts as a "test", with the practical view of finding "tests" which are the least "traumatic" as possible.
Here"s the background: Its a common ark in pop culture, and before that literature, and indeed many religious texts of a person with "normal" beginnings, having to face some danger (The test) and emerging forever changed, in theory for the better / triumphant over oppressors etc..
Examples of this could be Starwars ep 4 Luke's test is losing his family, seeing his mentor die... etc.. etc..
Which leads me to believe that "growth" cannot exist without first some kind of Trauma. My trauma has been the death of my wife, and unborn child, which is as horrendous as it sounds, but I have found that despite the grief, I now realise Im capable of so much more....
But what counts as "trauma"? Also, could it be that the depth of the trauma is proportional to the "growth" which may, or may not follow?