Introduction
The inquiry into the nature of values isn't merely theoretical; it is a matter of existential importance, especially when the values you've grown up with have been rooted in deception, manipulation, and emotional abuse.
From Distorted Values to Self-Discovery
Inherited from a childhood marred by gaslighting and manipulation, my initial value system was a labyrinth of distortions that dictated the course of my relationships and self-development. Addressing this was not a choice but a pressing necessity; I had to undertake a rigorous, time-consuming journey to dissect and reformulate these core beliefs.
The Price of Transformation
Navigating through this complicated inner landscape was not only mentally taxing but also consumed time and energy that could have been spent on healthier relationships or constructive pursuits. This internal journey ran parallel to external responsibilities, creating a constant tension that divided my focus and diluted my efforts in other life areas.
The Relational Fallout
As I evolved, so did my value system, resulting in a seismic shift in friendships that were originally based on shared but flawed values. This dissonance was a two-way street; I outgrew certain beliefs while my friends held onto theirs, creating an insurmountable chasm.
The Ultimate Question: Are There Universal Values?
This transformation brings us to the heart of the issue. While many of my initial values were distorted, some might still hold universal relevance. It's crucial to determine which values are inherently good, universally correct, or accepted and should be retained, especially when planning any long-term life goals. Given this backdrop, my question is: Are there any universal values, and if so, how can one discern them?
Note: Definition of "Good"
To avoid any confusion, I want to clarify what I mean when I use the term "good" in the context of this discussion. Here, "good" does not necessarily refer to what is morally or ethically commendable, although it can include those aspects. Instead, it refers to what is broadly accepted, or considered beneficial across various cultures, societies, or individual belief systems.