I recently noticed a pattern of interaction with someone. This person will start talking about something, give overly elaborate explanations that wander wildly between disconnected ideas, often using pseudo-logic. I believe the goal is to obfuscate a message that is hidden within nonsense. The person is trying to seem as if they are being detail-oriented and very logical and smart, but really they are trying to slip in some message or question that they know will not be received well if asked outright. If you do your best to try to follow, which can be difficult, you really don't have time to think clearly about what is being said. Between topic transitions, the hidden message is inserted, and then in a contrived way they sandwich that message with more BS on the end, and then say... "What do you think about that?".
The believe the intent is to broach a topic/plant a seed while discouraging you from questioning the hidden message. the disturbing part is that the hidden message is usually insulting, demeaning or usually disempowering. At first this technique was something I didn't want to believe was happening, but over time and repeat performances (pre- and post- stroke), it is now painfully obvious this is their MO.
Again, the basic question is... has anyone read or heard of a term to describe this pattern of communication/interaction. It doesn't have to be a logical fallacy. In fact it sounds more like a propaganda technique.