Gaslighting defined as
Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or in members of a targeted group, hoping to make them question their own memory, perception, and sanity.
Now, in the case, someone has a certain perception of their situation, and you think you have the objective perception. Is it wrong to try and persuade the person to realize that their perception is actually false?
More concretely, say I was making a scene, for taking offense to some joke. Now, three others are laughing immensely at this joke, and I am told, that I am overreacting and should calm down. Since overreaction is relative to the appropriate reaction, or in some sense, the expected reaction, the others perceive to have the objective perception. When they say I am overreacting, they plant a seed of doubt in my own perception, but not in an attempt to deceive me, but to enlighten me. Is this (still) called gaslighting?
The intention of gaslighting is not described as being part of its definition. If this is not gaslighting, how so? If this is actually bad behavior, how so? Or is the gaslighting, but also correct behavior?
I got to think of this because someone called someone out for gaslighting, and thereby dismissing what was being said.