Reasoning is a skill that one can cultivate. Your conscious thoughts going in circles, or getting stuck in non-useful tracks -- can be cured, by practicing how to reason more usefully.
If there is a question you need to solve -- What car to buy, whether your relationship is owrking out or not, etc. -- then reasoning can be deployed to help this process of thinking.
One tool is to make lists of what matters to you, in a car or in a relationship. Then weight or prioritize those features. It is often useful to read reference books on god/bad relationships, and good/bad features of cars (Consumer Reports is a great reference on cars, there is a lot of good popular advice on relationships). That reading will be helpful in adding to your list, and dropping some items off, and giving you background to evaluate what is left.
If there are several options you are considering, try numerically weighting your priorities, then numerically scoring each option against them. Then sum up the scores. you are likely to have a "better" choice through this process.
Now compare this reasoned choice to your intuitive gut. Do they agree? If not, then examine the details in your intuition that are pushing you in a different direction. Are there aspects of the weighted choice that you overlooked, or are not weighting properly? In this way, one can refine one's reasoning, and either bring it into sync with your gut, OR -- if you realize your gut feel is overweighting something that you rationally know is incorrect, then learn when to overrule your gut.
Ultimately, you want to use your intuition AND reasoning both usefully, and bring them into sync.