I notice that I often engage in activities that provide instant gratification and not do the work I am supposed to do. (I need to learn to delay gratification)

I also fall prey to obsessive overthinking,perfectionism, analysis paralysis, Information overload and FOMO.

I always wonder why we can't stop self-sabotage even if we know it's harmful.

Is there any sort of profound realization that will help us to overcome it? (Repeating|Thinking|Meditating on it)

  • A question for the psychology department.
    – user14511
    Nov 13, 2022 at 5:34
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    I think psychology.stackexchange.com will close the question as a self-help question.
    – Thinker
    Nov 13, 2022 at 5:38
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    Just because it is not appropriate for the psychology group doesn't make it appropriate for the philosophy group. Nov 13, 2022 at 16:54
  • I agree that the question is more suitable for psychology. Such actions usually serve some unconscious goals, and there are various techniques (or whole methods of therapy) aiming to avoid these diversions or find a healthy compromise with one's subconscious desires.
    – Roger V.
    Nov 15, 2022 at 9:57
  • Become a Stoic.
    – Scott Rowe
    Nov 15, 2022 at 11:21

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Read "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey.

The problem here is the lack of recognition between desire and necessity. Of course, recognition is not enough. The only way to effectively change behavior is by habit. And the only way to acquire an habit is by means of proactivity. All of that is perfectly synthesized by Covey on this book.


This is not the best question for philosophy stack exchange. You will find better answers listening to lectures on youtube or listening to psychology lectures. ..quick advice, Instant gratification is a selfish act. Instant gratification is not caring about your future self. Overthinking and analysis paralysis can be helped with articulation, and often this involves more reading and exploring ideas in general. Exercise/ artistic expression helps with overthinking. Cheers

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