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Update: What i mean by others is not necessarily the whole culture, but a sub-culture or even part of that would work.

This brings us to the Epicureans, which in addition to emphasizing the importance pleasure as a way to mask existential dread, they also emphasized friendship. Having a group of friends that share your answer for meaning of life (even if the answer is nil), will boost your self-esteem.

[III] How to obtain "Self-esteem" ?

The features of genuine sources of self-esteem:

(A) Does not involve self-accusation as in depression.

(B) Does not involve self-inflation as in narcissism, where the self is a balloon with no real concretization for the self-esteem origin that can be approved by others. This is doomed to failure and the subject will swing back to/from despair.

The genuine origin of self-esteem must be concrete and objective so that it can be approved by others and therefore reflected from them:

If I were asked for the single most striking insight into human nature and the human condition, it would be this; that no person is strong enough to support the meaning of his or her life unaided by something and/or someone outside himself or herself. (Angel in armor, Ernest Becker)

Whatever your own version of meaning of life (your origin of self-esteem) should be testified and shared by others.

Do not add to the guilt (the existential guilt) which is already inevitably there . Seek pleasure and self-esteem. It's okay to escape: even the last one to tell you that which is Albert Camus, made worth out of his condition of being special because of realizing the truth of our existence and he did not choose to despair. he chose pleasure and had several girl friends at the same time.

Do not add to the guilt (the existential guilt) which is already inevitably there . Seek pleasure and high self-esteem. It's okay to escape: even the last one to tell you that which is Albert Camus, made worth out of his condition of being special because of realizing the truth of our existence and he did not choose to despair. he chose pleasure and had several girl friends at the same time.